Boundaries, comfort zones, pushing our “edge”… these words have come up for me a lot lately.
As the mother of two girls, it’s mostly my job to be the emotional support for them… the listening ear, the mothering understanding, the “comfort zone.”
And while I found it somewhat exhausting with the “mothering” I had to do last weekend for my two girls as they faced different things in their lives, I couldn’t be prouder of them.
I realized today that it’s when they reach the edge of their comfort zone — when they each experience their “edge” — that they need me more than ever.
One has her first dance solo coming up, the other is stretching her edge as the shortest player on her competitive volleyball team. Overlooked by other, taller players, she has to make up for her height in skill. And it’s hard.
They both reached the edge of their comfort zone last weekend.
And that’s when I realized something. If they are playing their edge – they are experiencing failure, challenge, heartbreak, and wins! They are experiencing victory and disappointment. They are playing at the game of life with their whole heart.
And while us parents would love to protect them from those heartaches, it would also mean they wouldn’t get to experience the sweet victory of breaking through those tough times to the other side.
It would mean they would not experience how to play outside their comfort zone. It would mean they would not experience the triumph that lies waiting on the other side.
Which brought me to think about my own business, and career, and life – and yours.
What boundaries are you keeping close to you?
What victories have you not experienced because you haven’t tried?
What happens when you stay inside your comfort zone?
It’s comfortable in your comfort zone. Not messy. Even keel. There are no great disappointments, but there aren’t any great wins either.
What would happen if you pushed the edge of your comfort zone a little?
Danced your first solo in front of hundreds of people? Played your first volleyball game in front of critical bystanders? What would happen if you started that business you always dreamed of? Applied for that job you don’t think you’re really qualified for? Or started learning how to play guitar at the age of 47? What would happen?
You could fail.
You could fall flat on your face.
But you could win, too!
You could experience the incredible joy that comes with knowing you “DID IT.” You would finally said goodbye to the naysayers of your mind and go for it! And that would be sweet.
In the game of life, the only person keeping you inside your comfort zone is you. What are you holding yourself back from? What would you do if you knew you wouldn’t fail?
I’d love to hear your answer. Reply in the comment section below and let me know what you would do if you stepped outside your comfort zone? It can be big, it can be small.
OK, I’ll go first… I would start writing blog posts to share my thoughts and experiences with the world.
Now… what would you do? I can’t wait to hear!